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Just walk beside me and be my friend | @snapkwgirl #12Days4Good

December 15, 2016

“Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend”

– Unknown


I recently heard the term “friendfluence” and it resonated in me. Friendships are relevant on so many levels. Personally, I am proud of our collection of friends. In fact, I am in awe of the amazing people we have in our lives. No one person is more special than the other. There may be “close” ones, but I refrain from using the word “best” (i.e. of the highest quality, excellence, finest, unparalleled, matchless, ideal, with most advantage or success). No one person is secondary, lesser or peripheral in my world. Exclusion can sting. Of course there is a natural ebb and flow to friendships. I believe people come into our lives exactly when we need it while others may fade due to moves, schedules or changes in lifestyles, but they are just as crucial and impactful. The deepest ones will leave an indelible mark.

Some friendships may even turn into full-on relationships. Sean and I are a case in point. In high school we were closer than close in the “friends only” world. We shared our deepest secrets, wrestled, went to movies, bitched about our current partners and laughed all the time. We never crossed lines; it never felt like it was time. It wasn’t until years later, after running into each other at a party, that we realized our hearts were missing each other. Have you ever heard the term “The heart wants what the heart wants”? We experienced this. The realization was palpable! I was on my way out West, and he followed shortly thereafter. That was almost 27 years ago (that math just hurt my feelings by the way). Due to our deep friendship, we have always been able to work together. And by “work”, I mean both on our relationship and professionally. To make our sweet story short, I believe the power of our friendship is what makes us who we are today. This falls in line with friendships taking many forms. Friends will challenge, push boundaries and contribute to our happiness. Friends offer support when needed and opportunities to support as well. In other words, we can fill each other’s buckets.

Strength in numbers I say!

Friendfluence – It can be hard to fight a cause or raise money and make a difference as one person. Quite simply, we have surrounded ourselves in many amazing friends who not only make a different in our lives personally, but who also band together to generate a ripple effect of goodwill within our community. We are blessed…truly blessed and we look forward to creating even more friendships along the way.

I will end with an all-time favourite quote by Virginia Satir – “I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.” Now that is true friendship!

– by Dawne Taylor Gilders for Do-gooders ,“Team Gilders”

Dawne and Sean are today’s featured Do Gooders, creating good together during #12Days4Good. You can learn more about them and join in the good at!